le blog de catherine

le blog de catherine

pourquoi ce blog ?

l'envie de partager me donne l'envie d'écrire ...
je vais profiter de ce blog pour vous donner des infos régulières sur les sujets qui me passionnent !

the heart of buddhism

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 15:07
THE HEART OF BUUDDHISM de Guy Claxton

livre que je relis régulièrement et que j'adore ...

BLISS

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 15:06
a good book, it's about happiness !
ERIC WEINER - BLISS
à lire !

le charme des intestins

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 15:05
http://www.books.fr/best-seller/le-charme-discret-de-lintestin/qualification_id=9/

Une jeune étudiante en médecine se fait connaître outre-Rhin avec un ouvrage consacré à l’un de nos organes les plus mal-aimés. C’est pourtant une véritable petite merveille de la nature.

Giulia Enders a écrit un livre exceptionnel sur les intestins, uniquement disponible en allemand pour le moment

DARM MIT CHARME - Ed Ullstein


UN CERVEAU POUR CHANGER

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 14:58

UN CERVEAU POUR CHANGER PAR RICHARD BANDLER, un des fondateurs de la PNL (psycho neuro linguistique)

un livre que j'ai beaucoup apprécié - abordable et comprenant beaucoup d'exercices pratiques !



un an dans la vie d'une forêt

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 14:57

Magnifique et troublant, un livre sur l’ignorance de l’homme face à la nature

JEAN-PIERRE TUQUOI (REPORTERRE)

Un an dans la vie d’une forêt, de David Haskell, est un livre magnifique qui décrypte l’immensité du monde à partir d’un mètre carré de forêt. On y apprend mille choses sur la nature, mais l’essentiel est dans la question troublante que pose Haskell sur la limite des connaissances humaines.


Le livre refermé, on songe à Jacques-Henri Fabre et à son monumental ouvrage Souvenirs entomologiques. David Haskell est le Jean-Henri Fabre de ce début du 21e siècle. Comme son lointain prédécesseur français, ce sont les portes d’un monde vivant aussi foisonnant que méconnu, qui vole, se tortille, creuse, gratte, rampe, pousses ses racines, s’infiltre au cœur des cellules dont David Haskell ouvre les portes pour le plus grand plaisir du lecteur.

L’idée de départ du livre est simple. L’auteur, un universitaire américain de quarante-cinq ans, biologiste de formation, a choisi d’observer pendant une année « un carré de feuilles, de cailloux et d’eau, un espace d’un mètre de diamètre, équivalent en taille aux mandalas circulaires des moines tibétains » en s’imposant quelques règles simples : « Venir le plus souvent possible, y observer le jeu des saisons, garder le silence, ne rien prélever, ne rien déplacer, effleurer peut-être, et patiemment me fondre dans le microcosme ».

Le résultat est magnifique et explique que le livre, encensé aux Etats-Unis, a manqué de peu le prix Pulitzer au printemps 2013. Ce succès tient aux qualités propres de l’ouvrage, ordonnancé en brefs chapitres qui suivent le fil du temps et des saisons de ce bout de forêt dans le Tennessee selon une construction quasi invariable : une observation faite au mandala (la mésange ne semble pas souffrir du froid polaire ambiant) conduit l’auteur à élargir le sujet (l’acuité visuelle peu commune de la mésange au service de la quête de la nourriture) jusqu’à en faire un thème de réflexion (pourquoi le monde hivernal est-il hostile à l’homme ?).

Sans doute le livre, tout enlevé qu’il est, ne se lit pas comme un polar, mais qu’il nous parle des escargots, des chevreuils, des éphémères printanières, des mousses et des lichens fréquentant le mandala, qu’il nous raconte la formation d’une coquille d’œuf, le mode d’action d’une tique ou la chute d’une samare d’érable, Haskell le fait dans une langue alerte, en usant de mots simples, compréhensibles par tous, et d’images bien choisies. Vulgariser est un art difficile surtout lorsqu’on entend, comme c’est le cas dans le livre, faire bénéficier le lecteur des dernières connaissances scientifiques disponibles. La bibliographie qui clôt l’ouvrage (un seul auteur français y figure !) témoigne du sérieux du travail de Haskell.

On apprend beaucoup en lisant le livre, que la lumière verte émise par les lucioles sert autant à attirer des partenaires sexuels qu’à en faire fuir d’autres, que des extraits de plantes figurent dans une ordonnance médicale sur quatre, que le poids d’une chenille au cours de sa vie est multiplié par deux mille à trois mille, que la voltige des samares d’érables a peu à voir avec celle des tulipiers et des frênes et que cela ne doit rien au hasard…

Mais l’essentiel est ailleurs. Il réside dans une idée qui court tout au long du livre, celle de l’ignorance abyssale de l’homme face à la nature. Au total, nos connaissances sont superficielles et parcellaires. Pourquoi l’éventail des méthodes de reproduction des champignons est-il si large ? Pourquoi la sexualité des escargots a-t-elle davantage à voir avec celle des arbres à fleurs qu’avec celle des abeilles ou des oiseaux ? Comment s’organise la vie dans la zone racinaire des plantes là où la densité microbienne est cent fois plus élevée que dans le reste du sol ? Faut-il considérer les dichromates (les daltoniens) comme les victimes d’un accident au regard de l’évolution ou au contraire des bénéficiaires d’un avantage ?

A toutes ces interrogations qui renvoient à l’évolution du monde l’homme est incapable de répondre. « Au fil de mes observations, la conscience de l’énormité de mon ignorance s’est imposée à moi. Je suis bien incapable ne serait-ce que d’énumérer et de nommer les habitants du mandala. La compréhension de leurs modes de vie et de leurs relations est impossible de façon autre que fragmentaire. Plus j’observe, conclut l’auteur, plus s’éloigne l’espoir de comprendre le mandala, de saisir sa nature la plus fondamentale ». Y parviendra-t-on un jour ?


Jean-Pierre Tuquoi



j'arrête la malbouffe

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 14:55

le nouveau livre de marion kaplan ... très sympa à lire "j'arrête la malbouffe en 21 jours"



7 habitudes pour les familles épanouies

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 14:55

un bon livre, lu il y a des années, en inde…Stephen Covey

THE 7 HABITS FOR HIGHLY EFFECTIVE FAMILIES

version française http://www.amazon.fr/Les-Sept-habitudes-familles-épanouies/dp/287691414X

et le résumé du livre en anglais ...

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families – by Stephen Covey

Published by Allen & Unwin ISBN I 86448 888 3


In 1989 Stephen Covey wrote one of the most widely read self-improvement books of the late 20th Century, ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’ in which he identified seven habits which successful people exhibit. This book he explains how these same principles can be applied to families.

Covey contends that ‘the 7 Habits are based on universal, timeless and self-evident principles that are just as true in the world of human relationships as the law of gravity is in the physical world.... These habits are not tricks or techniques. They’re not quick fixes... They are habits – established patterns of thinking and doing things – that all successful families have in common’ 1

Good families are off track 90 percent of the time!

It is important to recognise that you will not be ‘on track’ all of the time. A good analogy is an aeroplane that will be off course for most of the journey. Extending this analogy the pilot will have three essential tools that many go through life without –


1. A clear vision of his destination

2. A flight plan

3. A compass


Keeping the family ‘on track’ has become more difficult over the past 50 years due to changes in society. There is therefore more responsibility on the parents, as there is less support from the community at large.


Habit 1 – Be Proactive


‘Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom’.2 This powerful concept establishes not only the opportunity, but also our personal responsibility, for the course our lives.

‘What we all need is a “pause button” – something that enables us to insert a pause between what happens to us, and our response to it, and to choose our own response.’ 3 Habits 1, 2 and 3 focus on how to create that pause button and how to act on principles and values rather than reacting based on feelings or circumstances. As the choices we make all lead to outcomes, by improving the quality of our choices, we can improve those outcomes.


Our ability to utilise our freedom of choice is based on four unique human gifts


1. Self-awareness

2. Conscience

3. Imagination and

4. Independent Will


The development of these gifts like the development of a muscle requires work. The essence of proactivity, and the use of these four gifts, lies in taking responsibility and initiative by focusing on the things that we can do something about. This introduces the concept of the circle of concern and the circle of influence. Proactive people focus on the circle of influence and as a result that circle increases.


One way to tell whether you are in your circle of influence or circle of concern is to listen to your own language.


Building the Emotional Bank Account

The emotional bank account represents the quality of the relationship that you have with another person. You ‘can make deposits by proactively doing things that build trust in the relationship, or you can make withdrawals by reactively doing things that decrease the level of trust. The balance of trust in the account determines how well you communicate and solve problems with another person.’5

Proactively making deposits is something that we can always do. In fact every problem can become an opportunity to make a deposit. For example

• Someone’s ‘bad day’ becomes an opportunity to be kind

• An offence becomes an opportunity to apologise or forgive

• Someone’s gossip becomes an opportunity to be loyal to those not present

‘The decision to be the creative force of our own lives is the most fundamental choice of all.’6 This is the basis of Habit 1 – Be proactive.


Habit 2 – Begin with the End in Mind


‘The end in mind’ is your destination. It is about creating a clear vision of what you and your family stand for, and what you hope to achieve. Vision is the power behind every successful individual and organisation. ‘Vision is greater than ‘baggage’ – greater than the negative baggage of the past and even the accumulated baggage of the present. Tapping into this sense of vision gives you the power and the purpose to rise above the baggage and act based on what really matters most.

This chapter focuses on developing a family mission statement as the practical application of the habit. In a business environment it is developed by answering the question - ‘What is the

essential mission or purpose of this organisation, and what is its main strategy in accomplishing that purpose?


Covey describes the process that his family went through in developing their mission statement. This involved –


1. Creating a vision of what they wanted their family to be like

2. Determining what principles they would live by

3. A shared vision that would be owned by all family members


Using the Aeroplane analogy, the family mission statement provides both the destination and the compass. Your vision and values are a yardstick against which you can measure your progress, so that corrections can continually be made, to ensure that you reach your destination.

This then becomes a three-step process –


1. Explore what your family is all about

2. Write your families mission statement

3. Use it to stay on track


A useful aid in this process are a series of questions that can be used to arrive at the core values of not only a family, but an individual or organisation.


In working together to arrive at a mission statement it is helpful to set some ground rules –


• Listen with respect – ensure that everyone is given the opportunity to provide input

• Restate accurately to show that you understand

• Write down the ideas


It is important to remember that you should be focusing on the possibilities, not limitations.

As with most truly important things in life, the process is as important as the product, so be careful to keep the following ‘watch outs’ in mind when preparing your family mission statement –


1. Don’t ‘announce’ it – involving everyone takes time and patience

2. Don’t rush it – deep and genuine involvement, listening and joint effort are required

3. Don’t ignore it – beginning with the end in mind is a habit, not an event. Writing it down is only

the beginning; you then have to live it.


Habit 3 – Put First Things First


‘Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of thing which matter least.’ Goethe10


Habit 2 tells you what ‘first things‘ are, habit 3 has to do with the discipline and commitment to live by those things. Often people feel that there is a gap between what really matters most to them, such as their family, their purpose or vision, and the way that they live their daily lives. The reason for this often goes back to Habit 2 - we are not really connected to our deepest priorities.


Creating Structures in the Family

Enormous social and technological changes that have taken place over the past 50. Most businesses and professions are being reinvented and restructured to accommodate this new reality. But according to Covey the same kind of restructuring has not occurred in the family.

A key starting point is to establishing weekly family time to plan, teach, solve problems and to have fun together. All of these activities help to build the emotional bank account.

One of the reasons that the family is so critical today, is the shift in societal support and values over the past 50 years. Although the table below represents US experience it is not dissimilar from that in most western societies.


The most difficult part of establishing any new habit is making the commitment. Once this has been done the next step is to ‘put in the big rocks first’. To represent our existing time commitments Covey uses the analogy of a bucket already full to the brim. It is almost impossible to cram additional rocks into it - you have to empty it first, then put in the ‘big rocks’ first. This can be achieved by organising your week around roles and goals, rather than activities.


Habit 4 – Think ‘Win-Win’


Habits 4, 5 and 6 are linked. They work together to create new ideas and solutions that are better than could be achieved by any one individual.


• Habit 4 – Think ‘win-win’ is the root. It’s the fundamental paradigm of seeking mutual benefit.


• Habit 5 – Seek first to understand...then to be understood is the route. Is the path to understanding


• Habit 6 – Synergise is the fruit. It is the result. A reward for the effort which creates a something better than 1 + 1 = 2


These three habits are about creating the social weather that helps us ask the question ‘Would you be willing to search for a solution that is better than what either of us is now proposing?’


The consequence of not working towards win-win is to accept either win-lose or lose-win, neither of which is a satisfactory outcome. The principle behind win-win is that what is important to another person must be as important to you as the other person is to you.


Cultivating the spirit of win-win

Inexperienced or immature people tend to act on their wants, and not their needs. Often unpopular decisions made by parents appear to be win-lose. The key is in the relationship as measured by the emotional bank account. ‘People will basically allow you to deal with their needs rather than their wants when they trust you and know that you care.’


An important step is creating win-win agreements, which contain – desired results, guidelines, resources, accountability and consequences.


Thinking win-win is at the heart of what family is all about. But this is often difficult to remember when caught up in the emotion of the moment. The ‘pause’ between stimulus and response discussed in Habit 1 is critical, as it provides the opportunity to connect with the ‘big picture’ or destination which was established by Habit 2 (Begin with the End in Mind).


Habit 5 – Seek First to Understand...Then to be Understood


The way we see the world is not necessarily the way other people see it. ‘In fact, people do not see the world as it is; they see it as they are – or as they have been conditioned to be.

It is important to seek to understand before you seek to influence – to diagnose before prescribing. ‘We each look at the world with our own pair of glasses – glasses that come out of our own unique background and conditioning experiences, glasses that create our value system, our expectations, our implicit assumptions about the way the world is and the way it should be'


Communication breakdowns result when people interpret the same event differently ‘As we project our conditioning experiences onto the outside world, we assume we’re seeing the world the way it is. But we’re not. We’re seeing the world as we are – or as we have been conditioned to be. And until we gain the capacity to step out of our own autobiography – to set aside our own glasses and really see the world through the eyes of others – we will never be able to build deep, authentic relationships and have the ability to influence others in positive ways.’


Empathic listening overcomes the two major communications problems, perception and semantics. Perception - how people interpret the same data. Semantics - how people interpret the same word. It means trying to see the world through another’s eyes, within their frame of reference. Communication is enhanced not only by the practical reality of truly understanding the other persons point of view from their perspective, but also because it builds trust by making significant deposits to the persons emotional bank account.

‘Seeking first to understand’ means just that. Often we seek first to be understood, so we evaluate, advise, probe or interpret from our own perspective, our own values. An understanding response reflects back the other person's feelings. If the level of trust is high, this can often be achieved quickly, if not, time will need to be taken as you focus on the underlying meaning, which is found more in feelings and emotions than in the words being used.


Empathic understanding is not easy to do. It takes character to take the time to understand someone when you really know what they are thinking (you usually don’t) or when you’re sure that you have the perfect answer (which you usually don’t).


When the other person is truly understood, to their satisfaction, you can move to the second stage of 5th Habit, seek to be understood. However, having taken the time to understand first, you are better able to speak to others in language that they understand.


Habit 6 - Synergise


Synergy is creative teamwork. It is the magic that happens when one plus one equals three, the third or better alternative that is generated from the interaction between people. Synergy lies in the relationship between the people who are interacting almost as if creating a third ‘person’ - you, me and we. It’s a risky business though, because the parties going into a situation don’t know what’s going to come out of it, but know that it’s going to be better than anything they individually brought in.


Appreciating other people’s uniqueness and living with the differences is often difficult, as we want to mould people in our own image. The key to creating synergy is learning to value, even celebrate the difference.

Habits 4, 5 and 6 often work in conjunction by involving people in the problem and working together to arrive at a solution. The key is to focus on the issue and the desired results, not on personalities and positions. The following process demonstrates how the habits combine to solve problems.


1. Establish what the problem is from everyone’s point of view. Work at it until people can express each person’s position to that person’s satisfaction.

2. Identify the key issues. Look at the problem together and clearly identify the issues to be resolved.

3. Define what would constitute a fully acceptable solution. What would be a win for each person? Establish the criteria, refine and prioritise.

4. Think of other options that would meet these criteria. Look for creative new approaches and solutions.


Synergy can also occur when people work together in a way in which one person's weaknesses are complemented by the other strengths. This requires self-awareness, as first you must be able to acknowledge your own strengths and weaknesses. Covey refers to this kind of synergy as transactional plus. Where one person exchanges their weaknesses for another’s strengths.


Habit 7 - Sharpen the Saw


Sharpening the saw means attending regularly to renewal in all of the life balance areas. Covey identifies four key areas of life, Physical, Social/Emotional, Spiritual and Mental and looks at renewal for both the individual and family.

In a family environment repeating habits of family renewal create traditions. These will obviously vary from family to family and examples from Covey’s and other families are given. Probably the most important of these traditions is having fun together.


Covey brings the Seven Habits together in a variation of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the movement from survival to stability, to success and onto significance. He contends that as we move through these stages we progress from problem solving to creating. In the areas of survival and stability we primarily focus our mental energy on problem solving. As we move toward success and significance the emphasis shifts to creating goals, vision and purpose that transcend the family itself. ‘When you’re problem minded, you want to eliminate something. When you’re opportunity or vision minded, you want to bring something into existence’19 and this is a totally different mind-set. This same transition applies equally to businesses as outlined in ‘Built to last"


Covey uses the concept of a Force Field to consider the impact of ‘driving and restraining forces’ on the path from survival to significance. He contends that it is necessary to completely remove the restraining forces or they will eventually restore the old equilibrium.

There are four leadership roles that move a family (or business) along the path from survival to significance –


1. Modelling – you cannot guide people unless you ‘walk the talk’

2. Mentoring – building trusting relationships that opens others to influence and teaching

3. Organising – aligning structures and systems to allow you to accomplish objectives

4. Teaching – the above are the preconditions that enable teaching to take place.


Thinking about these roles highlights the distinction between managing and leading, between doing what is urgent or what is important. ‘Family life today is a high-wire trapeze act with no safety net. Only through principle-centred leadership can you provide a net in the form of moral authority in the culture itself, and simultaneously build the mind-set and the skill-set to perform the necessary “acrobatics” required.’


In Summary

This book follows in the tradition of Covey’s original best seller, ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ and is both thought provoking and easy to read. Though it does not specifically address the issues of family business, the concepts that it contains can easily be applied to families in business. The principles themselves have relevance to all, be they applied in a personal, family or business context. Many useful war stories are incorporated and each chapter concludes with suggestions for implementing the ideas.


source : www.fbrc.com.au




ne soyons pas dupes !

des livres ...Posted by catherine campioni 17 Nov, 2014 14:52
NE SOYONS PAS DUPES

Ce livre est destiné à interpeller les jeunes afin de les motiver à sortir de la malbouffe.

Ce livre est dédié à toute la jeunesse et à tous ceux qui aspirent à ne pas se laisser capter par « d’invisibles fréquences », qui cherchent à nous réduire au statut de dociles robots consommateurs. Prendre conscience de l’importance d’une bonne nutrition, c’est se donner la chance d’effectuer le voyage de la vie en pleine santé, principale clé d’une existence heureuse.

livre à commander en direct chez
http://www.bickel.fr/2014/04/ne-soyons-pas-dupes-nouveau-livre-de-bickel/



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